Why ‘I Am Enough’ is the First Step to Growing into the Best Version of Yourself
- Lisa Edwards
- Aug 20
- 4 min read
It sounds like a contradiction in terms doesn’t it – to become better you have to first declare that you don’t need to because you are already enough as you are. It’s a bit like getting a loan from a bank, you first have to first prove you have sufficient funds and disposable income to get a loan for things you cannot yet afford.
If you were to say to yourself ‘I am enough as I am’ then continue to do the same things you have always done day after day, you will never be more than you are, and while that is enough, there is far more to you than you have yet discovered. If you want to have more, do more, create more, experience more, live more you have to first become more.
Knowing that you are enough right in this moment is the only way to truly accept who you are right now. It’s like finding the starting point. Recognise who you are and where you are and even how you got here. If you don’t accept this is who you are, warts and all you cannot even begin to make changes and grow into the person you want to become. The person you know you are deep down. The person you were born to be before the world told you differently.
‘The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change’. Carl R. Rogers
If you want to get directions to your destination you have to know where you are coming from, you have to know where the starting point is. To get from A to B you have to know exactly where they both are before you can possibly find a route between them.
Accepting who you are, what you have been through, your triumphs & your mistakes, your peace & your traumas, your knowledge & your ignorance, your beauty & your ugliness, your health & your sickness, your likes & your dislikes, your joys & your sorrows, your wants & your haves, your truths & your lies, your fears & your courage, your pain & your pleasures, your hates & your loves, your flaws & your perfections.
You are made up of so many things, there is a part of you that is pure and innocent, the you that was born fresh and new all those years ago (nature). Once you made it here into this world you were exposed to people, and their beliefs, morals, limitations, fears, traumas, conditioning etc. First your parents and siblings, then your other family, aunts and uncles, grandparents, then family friends, eventually teachers, peers and societal norms and expectations. (nurture). All of these made an impression on you, for the first 5 years of your life your brain was functioning in the theta brain wave state making you a sponge, soaking up what you should do, who you should be, and how you should act, and all of this information has changed you from who you were to who you are now.
One of the most important things you must do to become the best version of you is unlearn and let go of the things that weren’t meant for you.
Discovering who you are right now can take time and can be a little confronting, especially when you discover something you really don’t like. Rest assured we all have things about us that we don’t like, but the fact we don’t like them shows us that this does not belong to us, it is the conditioned you, not the real you. The things that belong to you, that are part of the real you – the best version of you – will sit well with you.
That is how you know the difference between the real you and the conditioned you.
It can get frustrating and you may feel like it’s all too hard, it is not easy, but it is worth it. Discovering and accepting all the parts of you conditioned or real is how you gain control and the power to change them. If you have discovered that you don’t like certain aspects of yourself, Rejoyce! Because not many people actually face up to the fact that they have a not so nice side, so they will never be able to change it and become the person they want to be. You can.
The person you want to become is a person that you will like and respect naturally, without having to do affirmations and meditations. Although these are extremely useful tools to use to help us to become that person.
Most people resign themselves to the life they have and assume that that’s all there is for them. They go through the motions wondering why their life is so small and others are out there living it large… Don’t be most people… be you ❤️
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