31 Affirmations for Setting and Holding Boundaries

Lisa Edwards
4 days ago
4 min read

Setting and holding boundaries is not easy if you are not used to it and even harder if you have become a people pleaser and it can take some practice. If you are just starting out with setting boundaries because you have finally had enough and no longer want to be taken advantage of or used as a doormat you will need to adjust your mindset to really make them effective.

When people try to set boundaries without changing their mindset, they often find it hard to make them stick. To make a boundary effective you need to be firm and confident when you put them in place, if you are, you will have a much better result with them.

Creating a mindset that supports YOUR wellbeing and not just other peoples will mean that when you finally say no you will sound convincing and not someone how is unsure of their boundaries.

These affirmations will help you to be firm in your boundary setting allowing you to be clear and concise so there is no doubt that you mean what you say.

My breath is bringing my body back to calm.
Every day I learn more about what supports my wellbeing.
I choose to be gentle with myself.
My boundaries are valid and necessary.
I release any guilt for putting myself first.
I do not need to solve everything right now.
I deserve relationships that feel safe and mutual.
My boundaries protect my future self.
My heart, mind, and life are open to change.
My worth is not measured by how much I endure.
Being firm in my boundaries is a kindness to myself.
I have the confidence and the strength to say no to other people.
I am willing to let go of what is no longer necessary in my life.
I set healthy personal boundaries.
I am safe in this moment.
My anxious thoughts are just thoughts, I let them go.
I choose to feel grounded and centred.
Choosing myself is not selfish; it is necessary.
I give myself permission to let go of what no longer serves me.
I nourish my soul with thoughts of love, peace, and hope.
My boundaries protect my heart, my mind, and my energy.
I accept only healthy relationships. I deserve to be treated well.
I don’t need permission to create and enforce boundaries.
Saying no is how I protect the life I am building.
I observe my fears but don't allow them to control me.
Every boundary I set strengthens my self-trust.
I am worthy of kindness, respect, and emotional safety.
I am allowed to walk away from what harms my peace.
I deserve relationships that feel safe and mutual.
I release negative self-talk and the need for validation from others.
My boundaries are an act of self-respect.

These boundaries are powerful and will change your mindset if you are open to the words and the emotions they evoke. It is important that you say them with meaning and allow yourself to get invested in them.

Boundaries are important to maintain your own personal space physically, mentally and emotionally. Without boundaries some people take advantage and can cause untold distress on your health and wellbeing.

**Important Some personality types such as those displaying behaviour of narcissistic personality disorder are unlikely to respond to boundaries. If you have been successful with boundaries with some people and are struggling to get some people or a person to respect your boundaries it may be because those people are toxic and do not resect you. Harsh I know, sorry, but it’s true. I like many, have had to learn this the hard way. Try with boundaries, but if, even after you feel strong and confident with boundary setting and someone keeps crossing them… it may be time to reassess your relationship, look back and see if this is normal behaviour for them, have they treated you badly in the past, why did you feel you needed these boundaries with them etc. in extreme cases some people have felt the need to cut them out of their life also known as - no contact or at least put distance between them and go low-contact.

Remember you are responsible for your happiness and only yours. Everyone has the same responsibility to themselves. If someone is trying to get you to put their happiness above your own they are not good people.

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